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Pls help, why do this to me. Im a nice person? My fiancé & I together 8 years, dont live together as he had bad experice with a girl 10yrs ago. I stay 1nce a week. My dad thinks he 's using me so I asked... Show more »Pls help, why do this to me. Im a nice person? My fiancé & I together 8 years, dont live together as he had bad experice with a girl 10yrs ago. I stay 1nce a week. My dad thinks he 's using me so I asked my guy to see him to explain his intentions but he didnt. I lost my job+ was so depressed for 5 weeks & told him, he could do better than me. One night he was playing guitar on stage+ got asked out + said yes. He told me it’s cos I said he could do better. He said she had gone back to London so he wouldn’t see her anymore but 1 night I heard him asking her for lunch the next day. I spoke to the girl and she said she not interested in him that way at all. But I then found him using the Internet looking at sexually transmitted diseases. He also had blood in his sperm so I guess he slept with her? Recently, he did a fund raiser in work & played guitar alongside a student (Al) who sang. They become friendly & rehearse together & have done 1gig. She is s/times at his house until late.. I went to the gig & messing about with Al who has a boyfriend. He was poking her in the ribs & she was giggling like mad. . When they got off the stage Al ran off & kissed her guy 2 celebrate and my fiance asked why didn’t i hug & kiss him like Al's guy did to her. I said he had spent all night poking Al in the ribs & laughing & I was nervous since he had asked another girl out two months earlier. His other pal then got diagnosed with cancer & he bcame distant. He said, not dealing with the grief & cant deal with the pressures of a relationship & need to be alone for a bit. I didnt see him much so said shall we concentrate on moving in together to cheer him up. He said no! After weeks of not seeing him, I said I am feeling used. I asked when are we going to live together like a normal couple and he said another 2 yrs which makes it 10 yrs of me only spending the nigt once a week. I found out he was seeing a girl aged 22 and slept with her. He said he was so depressed and I was driving him crazy and he had enough to worry about with his pal dying, his job being made redundant and couldnt worry about me too!! I was only asking whats going on as I havent seen him in ages. His nieces and nephews were moving in with their partners of two yrs and Im 10 yrs older than them and still waiting after 8 yrs so I said "Look, if your not interested in me, then let me go. If you love me, then lefts move this relationship up a notch because you are driving me crazy. I was defending him to everybody and just wanted him to step up and proove he loved me. I wasnt asking for marriage, I just wanted something as I had stayed once a week for 8yrs and felt I had been understanding enough. WE went on holidays and did everything couples do. I found out he slept with this blonde little tart who was a nsty pice of work and I shouted that I was giving him space to deal with grief and he is shagging a little kid. He told me he only gave me an engagement ring to keep me whilst he found someone better & that Im not the right girl for him! After 8 years??? What took him so long?. He got fired for sleeping with a student & now work abroad. Everyone we know has shacked up & got married whilst 7 yrs on me & him are exactly the same. After he chucked the blond, we got back together even though he is abroad. He said that I am single whilst abroad as he needs to deal with his mistakes. I rang him loads cos he was lonely and then logged onto f/book & saw a picture of him and a woman he is dating. I am very sensitive and get upset if we argued or if he shouted at. he always made me feel like I wasnt good enough so when he went off, he said he understood what i meant. Ps we are not young. My fiance was 43 and I am 28. His family have now turned their backs and said I'm not innocent and drove him to sleep with this girl. How did I do that?? Surely after nearly 10 yrs of a relationship and not living together, I am allowed to question it. His family know he cheated on me once as I told them and they couldnt believe it. HIs mother also knows he slept withthis girl becuase she met her. They all know he was only letting me stay once a week, they all thought he was using me so why turn their backs on me?? His mother just said we were not compatible? How the hell did we last 10 yrs then?? 1 week ago Ps we did have a great relationship and he was lovely. I loved him to bits and we have travelled all over the world. We have had so many laughs, it was only towards the end he turned into a git. I wanted to spend my life with him. How do I get us back becuase he was and still is the love of my life!! I feel so broken hearted and grieveing so much, I really dont want to go on without him Show less »

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